50/50 Split: Namaste Harmony by CalEx

Once again, many thanks to SheVibe for their patience and generosity! I was originally sent this vibe months ago, and I could not decide how I felt about it. It was such a head scratcher that I skipped over it and even reviewed a few other toys first.

So, what do I think about the California Exotics Namaste Harmony? I’m cautiously optimistic about the direction of their company. Known for being a “novelties” brand – think grape scented jelly double dongs – CalEx doesn’t inspire a lot of confidence in me. But it’s not exactly easy for most people to drop $100+ on a vibrator, either. Is the Harmony worth its mid-range $46 price tag? It depends.

I was initially drawn to the Harmony because it reminded me of the Leaf Life, a quiet, beautiful toy by Swan. Harmony has a similar shape, but with a wider tip at either end. The thing is, Harmony is considerably bigger. While Harmony is 5″ long and 2.25″ wide, Life is only 4.1″ long and 1.6″ wide. Harmony is not much of a pinpoint toy, because its tips are rounded, unlike Life’s pointed ends. These aren’t good or bad things: simply differences in design and execution.

Now, really, Harmony is buzzy. It’s on the stronger end of buzzy, and the materials (ABS plastic, PU, with a silicone button), conduct vibration well. Because it’s so buzzy, if you have a strong grip or you have a partner who tends to clutch toys for dear life, you might dampen the vibrations significantly. Its 3 straight vibration settings go from what I would call medium to high to intense. If you like to barely graze your skin with the sensation, this would probably be a fantastic option for you, since the vibrations conduct nicely at surface-level. Another unfortunate side effect of buzzy vibrations from a toy of this material: it’s loud. Room-mate disturbing loud, but not neighbors disturbing loud. Is it college dorm appropriate? No. Would it would for someone living in your average apartment complex or town house? Yes.

Where Harmony really has the chance to shine is in the fine detail of its curvature. For me personally, the curve was perfect for clitoral stimulation. It sort of created a surrounding effect, making the vibrations feel more intense. I was actually surprised by how great it felt.

Harmony is rechargeable, which is fantastically convenient. I very rarely consider trying battery-operated toys because I just never keep batteries around the house. (I’m terrible at being an adult.) It comes with a USB cable and a wall adapter (for US outlets). The thing I found very puzzling about Harmony’s packaging is that it comes with a magnetic cover for one side of the toy. In the picture on SheVibe’s website, the toy looks like a yin and yang symbol, or Free Willy. That white part actually detaches. Why? I’m not 100% sure. It might be for perceived cleanliness, might be to hide the USB portal, might be for style. Who knows? I almost lost it 3 separate times while working on this review.

In conclusion, answer the following questions if you’re considering purchasing a Harmony.

1. Do you love the shape of Leaf Life but can’t afford it, want a bigger toy, or are happy spending $50 but not $100? (Worth it.)

2. Is this your first clitoral vibe? Are you on a mid-range budget ($30 – $75), and does this shape appeal to you more than a lipstick style? (Worth it.)

3. Do you own a MiMi, a Mia, a Mystic Wand, or a Tango (Salsa has been discontinued)/Tango? Are you satisfied with it? (Nope. Go buy tequila.)

Thanks so much, SheVibe!


BS is Nice Dildo Review

I kind of forgot that I had this dildo because for some reason it ended up in the back of my toy chest, which is weird because it’s very colorful and not the type of thing you could easily miss. I was sent the small, classically shaped BS Dildo, in the same colors as this beautiful G-spot BS dildo. Unfortunately, SheVibe is not currently stocking the model they sent me.

The packaging for my BS Dildo is very minimal: Just a clear but sturdy plastic bag with information about the company, a tiny info packet, and a sample of Yes lubricant. Frankly, I like it. There’s no BS (had to). No, it’s not subtle, but shouldn’t you feel good about the fact that your money is going towards a high quality toy and not some overblown luxury packaging? The bag is resealable, so it would make a perfectly good storage bag if you need that sort of thing. I tend to accidentally leave my (clean) dildos out, just standing around like tiny toy soldiers guarding various rooms of my house.

Because I’m the one sex toy reviewer who doesn’t have a measuring tape, and I can’t find a size estimate for the BS Dildo, I’m going to work with the fact that my hand is exactly 6″ long (same size as USD!). The dildo, then, is about 6″ long, with about 5.5″ being insertable. The girth is very reasonable, at around 1.25″ max. Because its a realistic phallic shape, the widest point is either the base or the ridge of the head. It does have a flared base, making it perfect for an O-ring harness or anal play. It is slightly curved, so it’s easy to thrust if you’re using it solo. (More on that later.)

The dildo is made of pure silicone and does have some drag to it. I used a pea-sized amount of Good Clean Love lubricant and had no problems with the material after that. I did perform a flame test, and it passed with flying colors, as I expected. It’s a single density silicone that’s soft and squishy, which makes for a very comfortable insertion. If you grab the base and wave the dildo in the air, it wobbles quite a bit. However, if you hold it paralel to the ground, it doesn’t droop. It’s clear that this toy was made perfectly for partner play. I don’t believe that it would be suitable for packing, but I’ve also never tried.

My experience using the toy was pleasant, but not earth shattering. It’s a very nice penis shape, and is small enough for me to use comfortably without the necessity of a warm up dildo. I think I would love this toy if I were in a relationship where we frequently used a strap-on, because it does feel pretty realistic without being overwhelming. Honestly, I’m a bit too lazy to put in the effort of manually thrusting for a while if I’m not getting considerable G-spot stimulation, so I prefer this toy to clench around or to use in preparation for larger toys.

If I were grading the BS Dildo on craftsmanship alone, it would absolutely be an A+. It’s awesome to see some more quality manufacturers becoming available in the States, and I’m glad SheVibe is carrying their stuff. As far as a solo masturbation toy goes, I don’t know that this particular design really goes the distance for me.

Thanks, SheVibe!


I’m Actually Having a Lazy Sunday

It’s probably because the world is ending with Frankenstorm.  I’m actually having a Lazy Sunday.  I was given a random Sunday off, and I desperately needed it.  This week kicked my ass, and ended with Steve and me (dressed as Prince and a Playboy Bunny) singing karaoke at a local bar (“Darling Nikki” and “Oops… I Did It Again”, if you were wondering).

Braiding! For SHORT HAIR! I can have some fun too, bitch!

If you’ve been thinking about blogging, if you’re new to blogging, or if you feel like there’s still something you can learn (hint: there is, this is you), you should check out Ali Lehman’s Blog Tips post category.

& Shannyn wrote about How To Score Free Stuff With Your Blog.  I can get behind that.

Haha. They’re worried this could come to Boston.  Would you be comfortable with a Trojan crew giving away vibrators on street corners in your city?

Sarah Von says, “Be Happy In This Moment.
How is your weekend turning out?  Did you go out for Halloween at all?

Ask Me Anything

This isn’t part of a link-up or a meme, but rather something I’m hoping to make a semi-regular (read: every few months) feature.  

I’m looking for your questions about:

Toys and lubes.

Personal health care (testing, best lube/lotion/potion for ___, bath & beauty).

Porn, including porn and relationships.

Relationships and dating.

Mental health and sexuality.


I don’t want to focus this on me.  I want this to be about you.  What do you want to know?  If you raise a big enough question, or if the answer would be too long, I’ll likely turn it into a feature-length post.  And if no one asks questions, this is going to be embarrassing, so get cracking.  Feel free to submit anonymously.


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What’s the Buzz? Part 4: The Rabbit

Hi pretties,

Please, please tell me that at least some of you have seen the Sex and the City episode with the Rabit?  Dual-actions are, hands down, my favorite kind of vibrator to talk about because they vary so widely but do so much.  I love me some multitasking tools (sporks, anyone?) and a rabbit style dual-action vibrator is no exception!

But why a dual-action?  Dual-action vibrators provide sensation everywhere it counts.  There are actually plenty of nerves within the first 2 inches of the vagina.  Many dual-action toys hit your G-spot, provide sensation for the opening of the vagina, and also deliver the clitoris.  They come in all shapes and sizes, so if you’ve ever been intimidated by bigger toys, or unimpressed by smaller ones, fear not: there is a dual-action out there for you!

& Fifi : If you’ve read the other installments of my What’s the Buzz series (1, 2, or 3), you know that I love the Je Joue line.  Fifi is no exception.  Like Mimi and Uma, Fifi is completely waterproof, made of 100% pure medical grade silicone, and she is rechargeable, meaning you don’t have to mess with batteries when all you want to do is have a good time!  What really impresses me about Fifi, though, is that the rabbit ear clitoral attachments are actually individually motorized, making them very powerful.  Fifi is the priciest of the dual-action vibes I’ll be linking, at $139, but I still heartily recommend her for anyone looking for a power, silicone, rechargeable toy.  You will not be left with weak vibrations when you play with Fifi!

& Butterfly Kiss : The toy company that I used to work for sold a product remarkably similar to the Butterfly Kiss, but at roughly 3x the cost – even at that price, it was a huge seller, because this design is amazing for beginners.  I would confidently recommend this toy to any friend looking for a first time vibrator, especially someone who doesn’t want or need a lot of length or girth, but wants to try a g-spot toy with added clitoral stimulation.  Butterfly Kiss is even waterproof, which is quite a bargain at $17.

& My First Rabbit VibeThis Rabbit-style vibrator has the looks of a classic.  It does not rotate to reach the g-spot, but its rows of beads rotate to provide a lot of stimulation to the first 2-3 inches of the vagina.  The rabbit ear clitoral stimulators are classics for a reason – they work!  In my opinion, one of the best things about these kinds of toys is that because the toy is a bit squishy (made of TPR silicone), you can press and hold the rabbit in place so that it works perfectly with your anatomy.  At $39, this is an amazingly budget-friendly classic rabbit vibrator, though it is considered to be a louder toy.

& The Rabbit Habit : This is the rabbit originally featured on Sex and the City, with all the bells and whistles!  The shaft rotates to hit your g-spot, the rotating beads are right in place to reach the most sensitive part of the vagina, and the rabbit ears are powerful.  Unlike the one in the video I linked above, this rabbit is free of remote controls.  This is a louder vibrator, but it really packs a punch when it comes to power.  If you live alone, don’t hesitate!  At $90, this is a bit of an investment, but it’s a popular option for a very good reason.

Do any of my readers have experience with a rabbit style dual-action toy?  Any recommendations that I didn’t list?  I would love to hear from you!

Safe & sexy,