Posts Tagged ‘introvert’

What I’ve Learned So Far

Hi there long-neglected follower darlings!

I spent Wednesday night through Saturday night in Baltimore with the manfriend, his sister, and her boyfriend.  It was probably the most insane vacation I’ve ever taken, even considering the fact that we went to bed during the PM hours almost every night.  We’re super cool like that.  But seriously, I think I drank my weight in beer, ate my weight in brick oven pizza, and walked about 30 miles.  I’m going to write a full post – including some photos – later this week!

It’s been about a week since we began our official move-in, so obviously I’m now an expert on moving in with your significant other.  Obviously, he hasn’t killed me yet or cast me out into the streets, so I must be doing a pretty good job.

What I’ve Learned So Far:

1. If you’re on completely different schedules, figure out how to make it work – you don’t have to adjust them to match.  I go to sleep around 12, and he joins me around 3.  I sleep like the dead, so maybe this wouldn’t work for everyone, but I personally find it a lot more realistic than trying to make my nightowl boyfriend go to sleep in the PM hours.

2. Don’t be cheap.  I used a quart of milk from his carton last week, but bought a gallon today.  He shares his beer with me, and I make him food sometimes.  Unless you start to feel like you’re supporting your SO unfairly, there’s no reason to squabble over a box of cereal.  It’ll probably even out in the end.

3. Ask for space when you need it, nicely.  Both he and I are introverts, and we’ve acknowledged that there will be times when we’ll need “me time”.  I plan on moving some of my desk and blogging stuff into a spare corner so we can have separate work areas (and oh, idk, so I can watch Pretty Little Liars without judgment…).

4. Related to #2, have a plan for certain expenses.  Manfriend and I have an agreement wherein he buys beer for our consumption, and I buy sex toys/accouterments for our use.  He drinks more beer than I do, and I use more sex toys (and lust after far more) than he does, but we happily share.  (Bonus: If you buy glass or pure silicone, you can completely sanitize your toys and actually share.  So cost effective!)

I’ll be back with more wisdom as I glean it.  Since I’ve sucked on Sundays lately, look forward to a weekly links post tomorrow or Wednesday, too.  I promise, it’ll be jumbo.  Like, world’s biggest dildo jumbo.

Blog Funk

M’dears,

A few months ago, I remember reading more than a handfull of posts by some of my favorite bloggers discussing their own blog funks and dissatisfaction.  Most of them rebounded quickly and have continued to be some of my favorites.

Working 30-40 hours a week in retail is exhausting, I’m not going to lie to you.  I absolutely love it, but a lot of human contact means a very tiring day.  I’m kind of an introvert (I’m an INFJ, if you’re curious) so this work leaves me wanting to do a little more hibernating.

The best thing about my job is that I get to spend hours nearly every day helping people.  Maybe selling someone a rabbit vibe isn’t quite like serving them dinner at a shelter, but if I can help someone’s relationship with themselves or their partner(s) evolve, I consider that a human service.  I’m proud to do what I do.

Truthfully, this has left me with way less time for blogging.  I think it would be a good idea for me to plan out 1-2 good, meaty posts per week, in addition to regular Lazy Sundays (which, did you know, is actually a Lonely Island song!?  Legit, I had no clue).  I’m not a big time blogger, but I hope that I won’t be losing anyone if I try this schedule out.

I’m definitely in no way abandoning the Darling Mothership.  Bear with me while I adjust to this crazy awesome new life schedule??

Marvelously,

Sarah