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Philly is Sexational!

Over the weekend, because my partner was going to an academic conference, I had the awesome opportunity to visit Caitlin from Sex-ational! My prior experiences in Philly had been nice, but spent entirely with an ex boyfriend, so it was fun to reclaim the city a little bit. Until the last 12 hours, it was a fantastic trip – but I’ll get to that later.

We met up for dinner on Friday night and went to an amazing restaurant called Vedge. I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned it much, but my partner is a vegetarian, and I try to go along with his lifestyle as much as possible. Anyway, if you have the chance to go to Vedge, do it. It’s actually a vegan restaurant, which I didn’t realize until I read the website again. Some people might call that a good thing, but I like vegans, so I’ll just say that it makes it a little bit of an easier to sell to the meat & potatoes crowd. The atmosphere was very trendy, and they served some of the richest, most succulent food I’ve ever had. It’s more of a tapas experience than an individual entrees kind of meal, so I recommend sharing it with friends of similar tastes. (You may also find yourself ordering a pizza 3 hours later. Don’t judge.) They also have a deliciously spicy and unfiltered house made ginger beer, which combines with Snap liquor very nicely. Unfortunately, we inhaled the food before I could take any photos.

After dinner, we went to Kink, which is an awesome newer sex-positive shop focusing on – you guessed it – kink. They were having a rope suspension demo that night, which was awesome to watch. We also got to chat with one of the owner’s friends, and I pointed her in the direction of the Tantus Splish after we bemoaned the dearth of interesting small dildos.

The following day, Caitlin and I met up for some thrifting and window shopping. I scored a soft, well-worn Philly roller derby t-shirt and a pair of Paper Denim & Cloth cut offs for $9 total, so you can start being jealous now if you weren’t already. For some refreshment, we had Thai Iced Coffee at Rocket Cat Cafe, which was super cozy, vegan-friendly, and out of my league with its cool factor.


Our last stops were to visit some of the local adult stores, as toy reviewers do. I don’t have any pictures of this part of the tour because that’s generally frowned upon for consumer privacy reasons. We ogled lingerie, squeezed dual-density dildos, and showed one of the shop managers the BS Is Nice toy we were carrying around with us. All in a day’s work.


At the end of the day on Saturday, we settled in at Casa de Sex-ational with some wine, cheese, and Tantus dildos. I brought the Raptor along to compare to her new Duke, and then we decided that we couldn’t let the moment go uncaptured.


I’m Back and All Kinds of Married!

I’m so sorry for my extended absence! I still have two toy reviews and one book review to write/publish, but I thought a wedding recap would be in slightly higher demand. ;)

Our wedding was on Saturday August 10th, which also happens to be my parents’ anniversary. It was outside, and we were so lucky to have beautiful weather! I believe it was 75 and partly sunny all day. (Thanks, Pittsburgh!)

The Quaker-style ceremony was beautiful, and I pretty much cried the entire time. I also totally forgot that I even had a bouquet. Dmitri only sort of botched the ring bearer job, and Daphne barked only once – during a lull in the time meant for sharing. About 50% of the guests responded with “Amen!” when Steve’s sister closed the ceremony with the words of Ru Paul.

We’re waiting for the official wedding and engagement photos, but as soon as I have them, I’ll be making a pro-photo post with all kinds of beautiful images. I’m really lucky to have a good friend from high school who grew into a talented photographer! For now, I’ll be relying on my friends’ and family’s Instagram snaps.



I’ve been friends with these girls for around 15 years. As you can see, they’re very supportive.

The dress was from Modcloth, and underneath, I wore the same corset that my mother wore on her wedding day. Unfortunately, this meant that I couldn’t breathe. Which led to me changing into my reception apparel after almost choking on homemade sangria.

After my introvert ass had enough of all the (lovely) people milling around, my ~husband~ and I left for our wedding night surprise at around 10pm. It. Was. INCREDIBLE. My mum – with the help of one of my best friends from elementary school – booked us a suite at the Fairmont hotel, where we celebrated like either kings or rap stars. I mean, we drank champagne in the shower. One entire wall was a window. And everything was chocolate.

My good friend Alicia (third from the right in photo #1), who’s made a few appearances on this blog, was the mastermind behind the suite’s – ah hem – creative decorating that night.



And the next morning, after saying goodbye to my new in-laws, we left for Canada. I’d never been outside the country before, so we took off for Toronto, where we’d made reservations via Air B ‘n B.



One of my absolute favorite highlights of the trip include our first dinner in Toronto, at the Grand Electric. If you’re ever in the Parkdale neighborhood, GO. Their tacos are incredible! The drink prices are high, but from what I saw, about what you’d expect in TO. (In Pittsburgh, if you tried to charge me $8 for a standard lager, I’d take your head off.)



The next day, we did some window shopping, met the lovely folks at Good for Her, and did some more mulling about. It was a good day, but by far, my favorite day of our trip was Tuesday, when we went to the beach Centre Island…



Then headed to Come As You Are, where I pretty much wanted to move in and befriend all the staff. I told Steve while we were there, a good sex shop is like my personal spiritual home. Like I can walk in, exhale, and ahhhh… Relaxation and rejuvenation. And dildos. Lots of dildos. And, as I got very excited about and squealed with one of the proprietors, MAPLE FLAVORED CONDOMS! (Which sadly didn’t have that much maple flavor but did smell yummy.)

We’re back in Pittsburgh for now, husband and wife. One week from today, though, we’re heading to Philly, where I’ll be meeting the lovely Caitlin of Sexational!

Life Lately

After two weeks of medication, I am definitely on the upswing. Life is not super easy right now, working two jobs and trying really hard to pay bills and parking tickets, but at least I can get out of bed/the house now and bring myself to regularly dress like I’ve got somewhere to go. I’m so freaking grateful that I’ve received so much awesome support in the last few weeks, from people like Caitlin, Sugarcunt, the Redhead Bedhead, and even my partner’s mom.

Kennywood Black Widow

Saturday May 25th at Kennywood, a Pittsburgh staple. This is the Black Widow, which you could not pay me enough to ride.

This past Thursday, one of my dear friends moved to Albany, NY, with her boyfriend. She’s the one in the green towards the right, pictured above, next to the superblonde (another close friend, shout-out guuurl). I’m super sad about her leaving. She and I lived together last summer and have been through a lot together, but I hope she finds success up in New York. Also, her apartment looks rad so I’m kind of jealous. It has a gym! In the complex! What is this, adulthood!?

Steve and I are gearing up to get the final word on our future. We should have all the necessary information early next week, and I’m hesitant to share too much before that happens. He’s been told to consider it set in stone, but being as cautious as he is, I certainly don’t want to jinx it for him! (Unless I’m Jinkx Monsoon-ing it. Bad joke? I’m going through Drag Race withdrawal.)

I have a couple new projects I’d like to start, but I’ve noticed a curious phenomenon. After working a 4-6 hour shift at Chipotle (yup, second job), I am totally freaking exhausted. Like, sit on the couch and watch 4 episodes of How I Met Your Mother exhausted. God, give me strength. I want to learn to code and design WordPress layouts (I have basic HTML, CSS and Photoshop skills), sell some old clothes on Instagram, and make an effort to blog 2-3x per week. Finally, my ambition is returning!

How has your life been lately? 

Facebook, Ahoy

I’m happy to announce that you can now find Marvelous Darling on Facebook!

Thanks to Kira’s rad Primp My Blog features, soon you’ll have access to exclusive Marvelous Darling content on our Facebook page.  My plans for the Facebook page are to provide Facebook exclusive content, grow my readership, stay better connected to my readers, and maybe even host a few giveaways once I get this ball rolling!

So please, join me on Facebook to keep up with all things Marvelous, darling!

Post-College Survival Kit? Yes and YES.


I have excellent news!  The wonderful and talented and ocularly stylish (is that how you say “has nice glasses?”) Sarah Von of Yes & Yes was kind enough to let me review her fabulous e-course The Post College Survival Kit!

Full disclosure: I wanted to read the kit, badly, but I was broke, and Sarah was sweet enough to give me a discount in exchange for an honest review.  She’s pretty rad.  But I am not being paid for this post, and all opinions are 100% my own.  She didn’t even ask me to say she has nice glasses (she just does).

Now for the fun stuff!  If you’ve never seen me post about Sarah before, here’s what you need to know:

She has all of the awesome.  All of it.  How so?

> She’s furnished her apartment entirely from thrift store and secondhand items, and still managed to make it chic.

> She’s gone on countless solo trips, lived to tell the tale, and never needed Liam Neeson to come save her.

> If you’ve ever spoken with her, you know this already, but if you haven’t, you should… because she’s one of the most           interesting, genuine people I’ve had the pleasure of e-meeting.

So what’s the Post College Survival Kit?  It’s basically How to Be Awesome After College.  It’s all of the life stuff people don’t tell you until after you’re all like, “Hey, mom and dad, I have like $5,000 of credit card debt, my boyfriend deals coke, and he’s not even always in the air never flying coach.  I live in a roach infested apartment that costs $1,200.  And all of my friends are blood-sucking leeches.”  Then, maybe, maybe someone will step in and help you.  Maybe.  But why not avoid all of that and go straight to Sarah’s collection of awesome advice and life tidbits?  Why not indeed.

What will I learn?  ALL OF THE THINGS.  Memes aside, in just the first installment (of 3! Trifecta of knowledge!) you will learn about apartment hunting, roommate finding and keeping, relationships out of college, moving in with your SO without killing them, and more!

Can you give me some highlights or something?  I want to know I’m getting my money’s worth. First of all, the course is $45.  Let’s be realistic.  What were you going to buy with an extra $45?  If you don’t live in a big city, you could probably get a semi decent amount of weed.  Which, ok, is going to sort of reduce your stress level, but it’s surely not going to make you better informed, and it’s going to be gone soon anyway.  And you’re going to spend even more money on pizza because we all know that you get the munchies.  Weed is not a good $45 investment for your future.  But yes, I will give you some ballin’ highlights to prove to you how much better than weed Sarah’s e-course is.

Ballin’ Highlights:

& Sarah will teach you how to decorate your first teeny-tiny apartment (that’s not roach infested because you first learned how to apartment hunt in chapter one!) on a mini-bitty budget.  That’s right.  And if you doubt her design skills, interest, or tastes, check out the design tags on Yes & Yes.

& You know how you probably met the majority of your friends in college because of where you all lived, the classes you took, and your clubs and organizations?  The adult world doesn’t have it set up so easily for you.  This sometimes throws me into a state of hermit panic.  No more!  GUYS, SHE TELLS YOU HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.  This is shit we haven’t seriously had to practice since like 3 years old, and we’ve gotten rusty.

& The included dating advice is like the Anti-Cosmo, as in, it makes sense and it’s not sexist or heteronormative.  You like to date girls?  Sarah’s not going to tell you how to “snag a man” (ew).  Why is the course set up this way?  Because the focus is on being a YOU that a great other would like to be with!  Also included are tips on meeting interesting people you might want to date, date ideas now that you have more choices than the cafeteria or the local $5 pizza joint, how you shouldn’t take shit from any scrub, and…

& How to move in with your SO without killing them or being killed!  I love, love, LOVE the points Sarah makes about communication.  There are hills to die on, and she addresses the important ones, and the ones on which you should consider waving the white flag to kiss and make up.

Are you convinced?  Even if you don’t end up purchasing the Kit, I highly, highly suggest paying Sarah a visit over at Yes & Yes to osmose some of her awesomeness for yourself.  You can also find her on Twitter.


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