Posts Tagged ‘fitness’

I’m 23, and (Almost) Everyone Still Likes Me.

I never really did like Blink-182. (Sorry, Alicia.)



Yesterday, I went shopping for some birthday presents. For myself, as one does. And literally everything I picked out was black, yellow, or a combination of the two. For those not in the know, I’m from Pittsburgh, much like Wiz Khalifa, and you know what it is. I definitely find myself missing my city and everyone in it a little bit more today.

That said, I can’t believe how lucky I am to be here. I haven’t felt as healthy as I feel now in a very, very long time. Recently, I got the chance to start writing professionally (more on that soon), and besides working on my own writing projects, I’ve been filling my time with making friends, reading, cooking more adventurously, and actually cleaning my apartment. And you know, I really like it. Sometimes, it’s a little bit lonely, but I’ve had time to run errands, learn some new things, practice my Deutsch, up my cooking game, and generally focus on feeling well. I’ve lost about a dress size, possibly around 8lb, just from walking so much, carrying groceries to and fro, and cleaning up my eating. And you know I’ve been having wine and beer like everyday, so it’s not some deprivation bullshit. I just genuinely feel so good here!

On Friday morning, all three of us are heading to Amsterdam for the weekend to celebrate my birthday. We booked an AirBnB apartment so Daphne could come with us and experience her third European city. Because my husband has been there before, I tried to plan a trip that would allow us to see as many new things as possible. Of course, we’re seeing the Anne Frank Haus, the red light district, and the Van Gogh museum, but we also want to see the Electric Ladyland – the Museum of Fluorescence, visit the Reypenaer for cheese tasting, drink at the Brouwerij ‘t IJ – an award-winning brewery, and try some Indonesian food (apparently a local favorite). It’s going to be a really exciting three days!

I guess this blog is sort of changing shape, and becoming more personal. Don’t worry – if you come here for toy reviews, I have a few that need to be written, and a couple more products on the way. I’m not going to stop talking about sex, toys, vaginas, and vulvas. But I am going to keep expanding my blog, taking on new topics as they come into my life.

Speaking of which, I’m looking to start a new fitness program, and I wanted to find something that I could do indoors, with minimal equipment. So, I decided to download the Blogilates App, and get the Beginners Workout Calendar. If you also use the Blogilates app, or just like Cassey’s videos, comment and let me know! I’m planning to get started on Monday, and hopefully order/purchase a suitable mat over the weekend. If you’re interested in my fitness progress, maybe I’ll start doing some fitness posts to keep myself accountable.

What I Love About Germany




1. The Germans love dogs, possibly even more than Americans do.

Sure, Americans love their dogs. We spend $52,000,000,000 per year on our pets. But dogs in Germany get to go almost everywhere with their owners! Daphne rode the train with us from Frankfurt to Kiel, and didn’t need to be crated. Just this morning, we ran errands and she happily walked around inside H&M with us. You see a lot of dogs walking off lead in Germany because it’s common for them to be well behaved and obedient. Daphne’s first time off lead at the park (not near any roads!) was a great success, but she’s still not quite as well behaved as her German counterparts. Dogs are just a normal part of everyday life in Germany, and most places are happy to accommodate them.

2. Holy baked goods, Batman.

If you like pastries, you’d love Germany, because there’s a croissant, a cake, or a pretzel around every corner. I’ve even noticed that the quality of Starbucks pastries is better over here. Something that I really do think makes a difference in the quality? High fructose corn syrup, and its virtual absence over here. Real sugar just tastes better, and from Coca Cola to cookies, you can tell the difference.

In Northern Germany, one of their specialties is plum cake. At first, I wasn’t sure I’d enjoy it all that much. I mean, I’m not usually much of a sweets person unless there’s chocolate or ginger involved. But once I tried a bite, I was converted. One thing I’ve definitely noticed is that there’s less of a guilt culture around desserts and more of an appreciation for how great they can really be. I haven’t seen as many “diet” desserts since I got here, and I think I know why…

3. You walk (or bike) everywhere.

Even though I spent the last 4 years living in the city, for the past two, I’ve had a car  and a job that was more than 30 minutes away. So, I drove nearly everywhere. I drove to the grocery store, to see my friends, even to campus despite it being only a 15-25 minute walk. I just couldn’t be bothered.

Since we moved – and we don’t have a car – I don’t have much of a choice. At first, I was reluctant, and I bitched about it a lot. I have to go grocery shopping without a car? As it turns out, walking 5-10km a day has really improved my quality of life. I feel fitter, I’ve lost some of the excess weight I gained in college, and since it’s easy to keep my portions under control, I’m not concerned about the Milka I’ve become fond of.

4. You can still find the comforts of home.

IMG_5112Admittedly, I miss Mexican food, but Chinese food has its own special place in my heart. We found a wonderful hole-in-the-wall restaurant right in the center of the old city with some of the best shrimp fried rice I’ve ever had.

If you follow me on Instagram, you probably know that I’ve already been to LUSH Kiel, and I’ve already made my first purchase. (Rose Jam Shower Gel. Yes, you need it. It’ll make you smell like a sex princess.) Yeah, I’m a bath and shower addict. What’s the harm? I’ve found that body care products can really make a difference in how I feel, and when you struggle with depression and anxiety – plus homesickness and fitting in with a new culture – I do believe you should look out for yourself however you can.

What do you love about your home?


Remember that one time…

…that I decided to go 30 days without drinking alcohol?


I didn’t. I’m just going to go ahead and say it.  I made it 7 days, and then caved because I was out at a super fancy bar and wasn’t sure if I’d get a chance to go again.  Why is it so difficult to give something up cold turkey?

I get invited out to drink, or offered a beer at home/at boyfriend’s/at a friend’s at least 3 times a week.  That’s a lot of saying no to a lot of delicious things!  How can I be expected to live that way?  Also, for God’s sake, I’m German; beer runs through my veins!  (Fun fact: I don’t actually cry.  My face leaks gin.)

Instead, I’m aiming for some more reasonable goals.  I’ve been trying to buy and keep on hand only foods that don’t make me feel sluggish and bloated.  The boyfriend asked me earlier today if I’d like to be his workout buddy (I was under the impression we already were, but apparently sex doesn’t count?) so we’re going running tomorrow.  I think we’ll be able to keep each other motivated, and I’ve never really exercised with anyone regularly, so it’ll be nice to have a buddy.  Plus, I think I might be in slightly better shape than someone else for once.  Oops.

So instead, I’m going to make a goal for myself that I think I can actually achieve: post updates with reasonable and healthy changes that I’m making to my life, and see what happens.

Lazy Finals Sunday


Is it finals week for anyone else?  I know ours is pretty early (and freakin’ full of bomb threats already), but I’m so excited to be done.  I have an exam tomorrow at 8am, my creative writing portfolio is due tomorrow at noon, I may have to take another exam Wednesday, and I have a Shakespeare paper due Thursday.  Can someone please remind me why I decided to take a lit class and a writing class?  ‘Cause I forget.

& I love Danielle @ Sometimes Sweet’s Tattoo Tuesdays, and I think this one has been my favorite so far!  Katie from Skunkboy Creatures is super talented, gorgeous, and her tattoos are sublime.  I get intense ink cravings just glancing at her photos!

& Have I blogged about my love for Caitlin of Healthy Tipping Point yet?  First of all, she’s rad and self employed (!).  Second, she has the cutest baby bump ever (!!).  And third, she always has interesting content, whether it’s something I never knew about fitness, pregnancy, being a writer (!!!), or cooking, she updates a few times a day and it’s ALWAYS worth a read.

& Are you sick of me linking to posts about iPhone apps?  ME NEITHER.  (If you are, just move along to the next ampersand – did you know that’s what “&” symbols are called!?)  This one over at Life Sans Serif short and oh-so-sweet.

& Speaking of ampersands… Amy at A is for Ampersand had a fantastic guest post this week about breaking up with the mall.  That’s right – no more brand-new shopping.  Julie from We So Thrifty wrote about her decision to take the plunge and why she hasn’t really felt the tug to go back.

Alright, my lovelies.  I need to go buy rat litter, eat dinner with the fam, and then immerse myself in Money and Banking (which is way less fun than it sounds because it doesn’t actually involve being covered in currency).  Catch you tomorrow after I’m done hyperventilating!

Love, love, love and marvelousness,


Lazy Sunday Linkasaurus

Hi pretties.

I’m actually on top of things this Sunday!  Well, I’m on top of being lazy.  That’s the best kind of thing to be on top of, right?  That’s a dangerous thing to say on a sex-positive blog, huh?  Whatever.  You enjoy a good lazy Sunday in bed and you know it.

& First up, we have an amazing DIY tutorial from Camille Styles on how to make your own custom cork stopper for when you’re Poppin’ Bottles!  (Poppin’ Bottles is also the name of her post, and she gets so many Marvelous points for that.)

& I’m kind of obsessed with The Fitnessista right now.  I can’t for the life of me remember how I stumbled upon her blog, but I’m absolutely loving her positive attitude about health and wellness!  She’s a personal trainer, a mum, and she makes amazing, healthy meals for which she shares the often simple recipes.  Brilliant.

& At some point, I would really, really like to take this e-course on achieving your creative dream job from Elsie and Emma of Red Velvet.

& If you’ve been a Marvelous Darling reader for a long time, you might remember my old, old post about nail polish.  Well, the cat’s out of the bag now: I freaking love nail polish.  Glitter polish, matte polish, shiny polish, sheer polish, opaque polish.  If someone sung me a nail polish version of “Soft Kitty” before bedtime, I would be heaven. If you want to learn how to make your own glitter nail polish, head on over to Lexy Levin’s tutorial – I’ll see you there, all glitterfabulous!

& Have you gotten Paper’d yet?  No?  Why not?  Don’t you like free, professionally designed iPhone wallpapers?  Yeah.  They’re super pretty.  I have one on my phone now, and while I’m still rocking a 3G (that’s right, not a 3GS – I got mad 3G swag over here), my phone looks like a million bucks.  So if you want some, go get some.

& I kind of want to marry Kira for the Primp My Blog section of her site, Her New Leaf.  No, but seriously.  If you’re new to blogging, or if you need a little sprucing, go check her out!

& …and while we’re on the subject, go check out her post about her favorite iPhone apps! I had no idea half of these existed and I’m super excited to try out Hipstamatic Disposable!

I hope you’re enjoying a lazy or productive Sunday, my loves.  See you later!

Safe & sexy,