OkCupid University: Etiquette 0500

Welcome to another installment of OkCupid University!  In case you missed it, you can find my intro to OkC post here. Many of the most common question I get asked about online dating revolve around etiquette.  A lot of myths still abound about male/female interaction, and since the majority of my friends are heterosexual, that's what I hear the most about.  I hate to be heteronormative, but a lot of this post is going to deal with being a woman looking to date a man, because that's what I have personal experience with.  If you don't fall into that category, I ...

OkCupid University: OKC 101

Welcome to OkCupid University. For my first course, let's just take a look at the basics, shall we?  If you're unfamiliar with the site entirely, know that it's a free service and can be relatively private if you're smart about it.  Mostly, it's successful for college and grad students, and working kids in their 20s. Myths 1.  Free sites are only good for hook-ups.  If people want relationships, they're willing to pay.  False!  If you're a student (undergrad or graduate) or you're in your 20s, you probably don't have that much disposable income.  You probably also feel like you're not "old enough" for something ...

Flashback to Online Dating

Today, I'm going to take you on a journey.  Back, back... back to when the pop charts first introduced us to "Rolling In the Deep".  When many of us were surprised by how much we either loved or hated Bridesmaids (loved, mostly). Summer 2011.  I had just finished my sophomore year and broken up with that year's boyfriend.  In truth, it had been over for a solid 3 months before we finally axed the whole thing.  I felt I had gotten into the relationship before I even knew if we were compatible.  Until the dissolution of our relationship, my relationships always followed the ...

Dating and Friends

I’m going to put this right out there: Some people suck at having friends and dating at the same time. Have you ever had a friend who just completely disappeared after meeting Mr./Ms. Right(Now)?  Maybe you’ve been that friend.  Maybe you currently are that friend.  Stop that asshattery right this instant. I get it, and I’m happy for you.  You’ve met someone that you just can’t stand to be without.  Hell, I have someone in my life that I can’t imagine being apart from.  It’s intoxicating.  New love is amazing, and you want to just cocoon with your lovenugget until you’re both old, ...

“I just can’t figure out how he feels about me!”

A few days ago, I overheard one girl on my college campus talking to another. “I just can’t figure out how he feels about me.  When we’re together, it’s great, but then he doesn’t text back and he doesn’t make plans.  But I like him so much!” It was really difficult for me not to go over and tell her what I’m about to tell you: It doesn’t fucking matter. Think about it this way.  When you make a new friend, you hit it off immediately.  Often, you exchange numbers, and you might go through an awkward phase where you’re not sure how ...