Posts Tagged ‘beauty’

My Thoughts on Dove’s “Real Beauty” Sketch Video

Have you seen Dove’s latest Campaign for Real Beauty video?  If not, go take a look.

First of all, I know there are 1,000,001 posts out there already about Dove’s Real Beauty campaign, both positive and negative.  After watching their most recent video, I had a thought that I haven’t seen addressed yet.

The entire thing hinges on how other people see us.  It’s all about how you critique yourself and how other people, especially people who know and love you, see you much more positively.  I feel as though I’m being told that what other people think of me matters more than what I think of myself.

I don’t want to feel better about myself because someone else said I have a nice, thin jawline or beautiful eyes.  That’s still giving the power to someone else.  I have my own agency and I have my own confidence.  If a woman feels ugly, the solution is not to ask someone else what they think of her, and suggest that she draw confidence from that.  The solution is especially not to ask what a man thinks of her, in my opinion.

If Dove wanted to make a real beauty campaign, I think they would have to dismantle what they’ve built so far.  They would need trans*women, women with disabilities, women of color, and women from size 0 to 20+.  They would need to ditch photoshop (btw, they totally haven’t).  I don’t know that we’ll see any of that any time soon.

I understand that they’re trying to sell us beauty products, and they can’t do that if we’re perfectly happy with ourselves.  They still want the focus to be on what other people think of us because then we’re easier to sell to.  And I’m not buying it.

So Lazy we Lost an Hour Sunday

Anybody live in an area that doesn’t observe Daylight Savings time?  Who hates it?  Who loves it? Who forgot until I brought it up?

I love it.  My birthday always falls right around the switch.  Last year, we turned our clocks back the day of my 21st birthday.  Of course, I went out that night at midnight, so I really needed that extra hour.  Daylight Savings just reminds me of anticipating Christmas as a kid.  I love when it gets dark early, and you can light candles or fires.  (For those times when it’s just not appropriate to light a butt plug on fire.)

I’m going to try to give the links shorter descriptions from now on to make the list a little less daunting and hopefully a little longer.  Yay or nay?

Carmen has some excellent November goals.

& White Liner: The Ultimate Primer – another reason The Beauty Department deserves an award.

& Bobbi visited Paris but it’s not like I’m jealous or anything.

& Have you seen Moonrise Kingdom?  Lexi made a great Etsy treasury based on Camp Ivanhoe.

Ali’s 3 New Things for November.

& Sarah’s November Network of Nice Hookups.  (Free help of all kinds!)

Twitter of the Week: Kelly Shibari.

 

I hope Twitter of the Week is a self-explanatory new feature.  Tell me how you feel about fall.

So Lazy We Lost an Hour Sunday

Anybody live in an area that doesn’t observe Daylight Savings time?  Who hates it?  Who loves it? Who forgot until I brought it up?

I love it.  My birthday always falls right around the switch.  Last year, we turned our clocks back the day of my 21st birthday.  Of course, I went out that night at midnight, so I really needed that extra hour.  Daylight Savings just reminds me of anticipating Christmas as a kid.  I love when it gets dark early, and you can light candles or fires.  (For those times when it’s just not appropriate to light a butt plug on fire.)

I’m going to try to give the links shorter descriptions from now on to make the list a little less daunting and hopefully a little longer.  Yay or nay?

Carmen has some excellent November goals.

& White Liner: The Ultimate Primer – another reason The Beauty Department deserves an award.

& Bobbi visited Paris but it’s not like I’m jealous or anything.

& Have you seen Moonrise Kingdom?  Lexi made a great Etsy treasury based on Camp Ivanhoe.

Ali’s 3 New Things for November.

& Sarah’s November Network of Nice Hookups.  (Free help of all kinds!)

Twitter of the Week: Kelly Shibari.

 

I hope Twitter of the Week is a self-explanatory new feature.  Tell me how you feel about fall.

Workin’ Sunday Links

After hitting my all-time pageviews high last week, the pressure is on!  I actually went through my Bloglovin’ feed this week with the express purpose of putting together a solid Lazy Sunday post.  Last night I celebrated two friends’ birthdays just a little too hard, so I’m extra glad I prepared ahead of time.  (Related: I should seriously consider becoming a Wendy’s shareholder.)

& I’m really excited for Shannyn’s eBook on being a Rockstar Blogger!  If you’re not yet familiar with Shannyn, she’s the mind behind Frugal Beautiful, one of my favorite blogs.  She’s also a successful small-business owner and wants to share her knowledge with you.  And she has a pug, which is 100% relevant.

& Kaelah admits that she needs a little help in the efficiency department.  Do you have any tips, or do you share her plight?  Personally, my room looks like a tornado hit, so I’m not qualified to be doling out wisdom.

& Conversely, Allison Lehman was killin’ it this week in organization.  First, she shared the contents of her makeup bag; makeup bag posts always work me into a tizzy.  Then, she shared an extremely valuable look into her small business tools, since she’s been ballin’ for herself since 2010.

& Sarah from SillyGrrl wants to share the Basic HTML Every Blogger Should Know.  As someone currently in a class for basic design, I’m digging this post.

& I think I link to The Beauty Department every single week, but really, if they’d just stop posting great stuff I could stop linking to it.  Blame them.  Or go check out the new tutorial on using blush as eyeshadow, which looks so Winona Ryder chic.  (If you don’t think Winona got it goin’ on, I don’t know that we can be friends.)

If you’re in a similar position to me right now, I suggest you get yourself some water and some diner food, because it’s going to be a long day.

Lazy Monsoon Sunday

It’s been another working Sunday in the Marvelous Darling household.  For me, anyway – boyfriend’s been home, rats have all been home (that’s right - all - more on that soon).  It was a super slow day at the shop, but I did get to work with a coworker I don’t see much so catching up was lots of fun!

Without further ado…

& I know this will shock you, but Sarah Von of Yes & Yes wrote another post about travel.  (If you don’t know Sarah, shame on you.  But she travels like a BAMF.)

Kira of Her New Leaf made a beautiful freebie wallpaper to share, both for your desktop and your smartphone!

Sarah of SillyGrrl (how many Sarahs blog? Seriously, about half of us.) posted a rad how-to on fake eyelashes.  Since she’s an acrobat/circus performer/professional glamorous athlete, I was psyched to see her sharing her knowledge with us ground-bound mortals!

 

I also have something to discuss with you.  One of my favorite sex bloggers and sex toy reviewers, Epiphora, chooses to remain anonymous.  Presumably, she has a job and a life and relationships that are mostly or wholly disconnected from her online persona and success.  I decided to embrace the field as my choice for my career, my blog, and what I hope to be my future business.  Do you think I’ve completely screwed myself for later in life, or do you think I’m building what I want: a relationship as an informed and at least semi-professional sex blogger and aspiring educator?

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