Please, please tell me that at least some of you have seen the Sex and the City episode with the Rabit? Dual-actions are, hands down, my favorite kind of vibrator to talk about because they vary so widely but do so much. I love me some multitasking tools (sporks, anyone?) and a rabbit style dual-action vibrator is no exception!
But why a dual-action? Dual-action vibrators provide sensation everywhere it counts. There are actually plenty of nerves within the first 2 inches of the vagina. Many dual-action toys hit your G-spot, provide sensation for the opening of the vagina, and also deliver the clitoris. They come in all shapes and sizes, so if you’ve ever been intimidated by bigger toys, or unimpressed by smaller ones, fear not: there is a dual-action out there for you!
& Fifi : If you’ve read the other installments of my What’s the Buzz series (1, 2, or 3), you know that I love the Je Joue line. Fifi is no exception. Like Mimi and Uma, Fifi is completely waterproof, made of 100% pure medical grade silicone, and she is rechargeable, meaning you don’t have to mess with batteries when all you want to do is have a good time! What really impresses me about Fifi, though, is that the rabbit ear clitoral attachments are actually individually motorized, making them very powerful. Fifi is the priciest of the dual-action vibes I’ll be linking, at $139, but I still heartily recommend her for anyone looking for a power, silicone, rechargeable toy. You will not be left with weak vibrations when you play with Fifi!
& Butterfly Kiss : The toy company that I used to work for sold a product remarkably similar to the Butterfly Kiss, but at roughly 3x the cost – even at that price, it was a huge seller, because this design is amazing for beginners. I would confidently recommend this toy to any friend looking for a first time vibrator, especially someone who doesn’t want or need a lot of length or girth, but wants to try a g-spot toy with added clitoral stimulation. Butterfly Kiss is even waterproof, which is quite a bargain at $17.
& My First Rabbit Vibe : This Rabbit-style vibrator has the looks of a classic. It does not rotate to reach the g-spot, but its rows of beads rotate to provide a lot of stimulation to the first 2-3 inches of the vagina. The rabbit ear clitoral stimulators are classics for a reason - they work! In my opinion, one of the best things about these kinds of toys is that because the toy is a bit squishy (made of TPR silicone), you can press and hold the rabbit in place so that it works perfectly with your anatomy. At $39, this is an amazingly budget-friendly classic rabbit vibrator, though it is considered to be a louder toy.
& The Rabbit Habit : This is the rabbit originally featured on Sex and the City, with all the bells and whistles! The shaft rotates to hit your g-spot, the rotating beads are right in place to reach the most sensitive part of the vagina, and the rabbit ears are powerful. Unlike the one in the video I linked above, this rabbit is free of remote controls. This is a louder vibrator, but it really packs a punch when it comes to power. If you live alone, don’t hesitate! At $90, this is a bit of an investment, but it’s a popular option for a very good reason.
Do any of my readers have experience with a rabbit style dual-action toy? Any recommendations that I didn’t list? I would love to hear from you!
Safe & sexy,
At long last, I’m here to talk about G-spot Vibrators! (If you missed parts 1 or 2, you can check them out here and here, respectively. We talked about vibrator material basics and clitoral vibrators.)
The G-spot is less widely understood than the clitoris, so let’s start with a little basic information. Lady friend, meet your G-spot. Usually, the G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on your belly-button side. It’s a patch of nerve endings that, when stimulated, produce what’s often described as a different kind of orgasm. FYI: At first, it will probably feel like you have to pee. You don’t. You’re on the right track.
So how can you stimulate your G-spot? Some women like dildos for the simple fact that they can be easier to control, and not every woman feels like she needs vibration on that area. I like firmer vibrators because if you don’t feel like you want or need the vibration some days, you can use them like you would a dildo. It’s really up to you. At some point, I will do a post on dildos – don’t worry!
That having been said, you really do have a range of options when it comes to G-spot vibrators:
1) Size. Do you want something big or small? What do YOU consider big or small? Think about girth as well as length.
2) Material. Do you want something firm or something more jelly-like (thermoplastic rubber, phthalate-free, is great)?
3) Strength of vibration, patterns, bells & whistles. Do you need something with one setting, 3, or 5 plus patterns? Do you like patterns, or do you find they just get in the way? Do you need to be able to have your fun without your roommates knowing what you’re up to?
Don’t worry – I’ve already considered these for you!
If you’re looking for something small and jelly-like, the Pleasurizer ($22) vibe from Babeland. As a former associate with a toy selling company that ran in-home parties, I’m actually very familiar with this toy personally and can confidently tell you that it’s a great first time vibe! The nubbies at the base are meant for clitoral stimulation, but as not every woman is built the same, I’m more comfortable recommending this as a G-spot vibe than a dual-action. The bulbous head is perfect for hitting your G-spot, though, and the jelly texture and small size won’t feel overwhelming. Plus, it’s not a loud toy – this is definitely one I would feel safe recommending for those in an apartment situation.
Women with a little bit more toy experience, or those who prefer a more realistic feel, might like the Boss Naked ($67). It’s actually Babeland’s own unique toy, and while it is closer to realistic than most G-spot toys I’ve seen, it’s definitely on the tasteful end of realism! Better yet, the reviews claim rumbly vibrations and a reasonable level of quiet for a stronger toy. Because it’s a silicone toy, it’s harder than the Pleasurizer above, but still has enough give to it to be comfortable inside of the vagina. Because Boss Naked is a firmer toy, I would even go so far as to say that you could comfortably use it as a clitoral vibrator if you found the vibrations in the tip strong enough.
If you were curious about Mimi from the last WTB? installment, you should definitely check out her big sister Uma ($109). I was actually seriously tempted by Uma last time I made a toy investment, and I’m still dying to add her to my collection. As another silicone toy, Uma is firmer than the Pleasurizer, and judging by Mimi’s texture, it may actually be firmer than Boss Naked is described to be. While firm, Uma is not strictly made for girls with girth requirements – at 1.5″ at the widest point across, this is not an intimidating toy. I have heard that Uma is not the quietest toy on the market, but with a motor similar to Mimi’s, I can assure you that behind closed doors and walls that are at least not plywood-thin, you should be fine and discreet. Like Mimi, Uma has five speeds and five pulsation patterns, which means plenty of variety and many options for you to discover exactly what works for you.
As with all toys, I definitely recommend a water-based lubricant. There are so many on the market that it shouldn’t be hard for you to find one you like – you can even start with basic KY water-based liquid from the drug store if you don’t want to order online. Just make sure not to use any silicone lubricants on your toys!
Once you’ve narrowed down your choices and have an idea of the kind of toy you want, consider where you make your purchase. I’ve linked to Babeland during each installment of this series so far because all of their toys are body safe and they have excellent sex education articles. I feel that Babeland is committed to safe and smart sexuality, so I endorse them. I’m an affiliate, which means that if you buy through the links I provide, I get a commission. I’m not here to sell you things, though – I would never recommend something I wouldn’t personally consider, or that I wouldn’t recommend to a close friend. I believe in making your life better through safely exploring your sexuality, and I think Babeland is a legitimately good source for intimate products. Browse Babeland’s selection of G-spot vibrators or, if you prefer, head to your local retailer to check them out yourself. Consider size, material, and vibration strength when making your choice.
Soon, you can expect to see the final installment of What’s the Buzz? – dual-action vibrators! Including the famous Rabbit.
Do any of you have favorite G-spot toys that you recommend? Did you find any of my toy recommendations helpful? I would love to hear from you!
Safe & sexy,
I hope you had a very sexy week!
Last week, we talked about vibrator material basics. This week, we’re going to address the most fun part of choosing a new toy: different types of vibrators. Who’s excited? This girl is!
Because there’s so much to say about each kind of vibrator, I’m going to break up this topic into a few separate posts.
Today, we’re going to look at clitoral vibrators. The clitoris can have up to 8,000 nerve endings, and exists for only one purpose: pleasure. It’s there, with a ton of nerve endings, for fun. Show it some love – that’s what it’s there for!
Clitoral vibrators are in most cases made to be used externally. These toys vary so greatly that there’s sure to be something for everyone, from beginner to toy expert. When looking for a clitoral vibrator, think about a couple of things:
1) Ease of cleaning (go go gadget silicone!)
2) Do you want a small bullet-style vibrator, a larger egg, or something totally different?
If you know what kind of vibration strength you like, you can usually browse a toy site by strength of vibration. If you’ve only ever had inexpensive vibrators from Spencer’s or another novelty shop, those were probably not very strong, rumbly vibrations. (In toyspeak, we call vibrations either “rumbly” which means they’re strong and deep or “buzzy” which means they’re weak. If buzzy gets you off, rock on! But a lot of ladies need the rumbles to get goin’.)
Above, I linked an example of each category within the “family” of clitoral vibrators. All of the toys I linked above after from Babeland, an online retailer that does not sell any toys with phthalates in them – you know you’re safe shopping with them! There’s the PicoBong Honi, which is a classic bullet-style vibrator. It’s waterproof up to three feet, so it’s perfect for a little bathtime relaxation. Second, there’s the Je Jouie Mimi, my newest favorite vibe. It’s a bit larger than a bullet, waterproof, and just like you’re phone or iPod, it has a rechargeable lithium-ion battery so it’s easy on the earth, too. In my experience, you can’t beat Mimi’s vibrations, either! If you’re looking for something with a lot of power, the famous Hitatchi Magic Wand is “the Cadillac of vibrators,” though it’s not the smallest or most discreet of toys. I’m also intrigued by the PicoBong Kiki and since it’s made by Lelo, a very well-respected toy company, I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend it, either!
Do any of my readers have a clitoral vibe they love and swear by? Are you excited for the next installment where we’ll look at G-Spot vibes?
Safe & sexy,
So when is this whole sex-positive thing going to come into play? Right now.
What’s the Buzz? will be a series of posts, likely interrupted by other posts on other topics, about choosing a vibrator. We’re going to look at materials, types of vibrators, and companies/vendors. By the end, I’ll have a decently comprehensive list of toys that should please everyone and, let’s face it, their mom. Because mom needs some good vibrations too, y’know? On to the toys!
If you’ve never shopped for a vibrator before, you’re in the right place! I’m going to write this guide as a first-time-buyers’ guide, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to anyone who isn’t particularly well versed in the business of pleasure. Not sure where to start? Let’s learn a little bit about materials.
First things first: There are some dangerous materials out there. You have to watch out for phthalates. I’m no chemist, but there is an excellent article on phthalates available here from She Bop, a female-friendly sex toy boutique in Portland, OR.
Whew! Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s look at some safe & sexy materials to start the fun!
100% Medical Grade Silicone: This type of silicone is widely considered to be THE top of the line sex toy material. Medical grade silicone is phthalate free and is able to be 100% sterilized, so it can be shared with a partner without fear of contamination as long as it is properly cleaned. As a non-porous material, you can actually clean silicone with a mild soap and water, a special toy cleaner, a heavily diluted bleach solution, boiling it, or running it through the dish washer. The method you choose will vary with the toy and your living situation, but it is absolutely one of the cleanest materials for a toy that you can possibly buy. Good silicone has a silky texture and a little bit of give to it. The only real drawback to a silicone vibrator is that you cannot use silicone lubricant with it at the risk of destroying the silicone of your toy!
Silicone Mixes and Blends: A toy made of a mix of silicone and rubber or silicone and other materials may contain phthalates depending upon the other materials in the mix. You should always check to see that the toy is listed as phthalate free, unless you buy from a shop (in person or online) that sells only body-safe toys. My personal favorite right now is Babeland – all of their toys are phthalate free!
Thermoplastic Rubber: Thermoplastic Rubber (TPR for short) is a great material for those who can’t afford silicone or don’t like the firmness of many silicone toys. TPR has a lot of give to it, and it’s a great material for a beginner’s toy because it’s not firm and intimidating. TPR is almost jelly-like, but unlike jelly, it doesn’t contain phthalates! It’s also much easier to keep clean. I personally recommend using a toy cleaner on TPR because I like knowing that I’m cleaning with something that first, won’t destroy the material, and second, WILL destroy all those little microbes waiting to mess up my vagina. (The cleaner I have is from Pure Romance, but because they do not list the materials of their toys, I simply cannot advocate making toy purchases through them.)
If you want to purchase a toy that does contain phthalates, know that you should only use your toy with a condom on it, to avoid potential problems with harmful chemicals in your body. Be extra vigilant in washing your toys if they contain phthalates, as they are also likely to be porous and more prone to holding harmful bacteria. Again, I do suggest a specialized toy cleaner for those types of toys.
A Note on Lubricants: I recommend using a water based lubricant with all toys, but I will be doing lubricant posts in the future. It’s very easy to find a good, reliable water based lube, though. I’ve heard great things about Sliquid H2O and have liked Just Like Me, available from Pure Romance.
I will be back in part two of this series to talk about types of vibrators, so stay tuned!
Safe & sexy,