Welcome to marvelous darling, a blog in hot pursuit of hedonism.
I’m Sarah Jane and I’ve been doing this whole bloggy thing since February of 2012. You can call me she/her or they/their1. I’m queer or bisexual, and in a monogamous marriage with the only person who can stand me for more than 24 hours at a clip.
Where It All Began:
Like many blogs of the late 2000s/early 2010s, mine started out largely personal and unfocused. But that same month, I purchased my first body-safe, luxury vibrator. I soon discovered blogs like Hey Epiphora and Dangerous Lilly, blogs that are dedicated to quality sex toy education and reviews. I was hooked.
This sex toy revelation came after a short stint as a sex toy party consultant, a job that I left after experiencing some seriously heinous medical issues related to porous materials and poorly-formulated lubricants.
Everything clicked and I knew just what I had to do: Start writing about sex toys on the internet.
Along the way, I’ve had some fantastic opportunities.
I’ve worked in adult retail. I’ve been a copywriter, a product design consultant, a company blogger, and a social media manager. I’ve written for outlets like The Establishment and Kinkly, and I’ve been featured in The Daily Beast, The Daily Mail, and on German television. I’ve attended life-changing events like the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, thanks in large part to my incredible readers and friends.
I’ve also gotten some really fun legal threats, and people sometimes tell me they don’t get why I “have to talk about all that.”
Eh, what’re you gonna do?
A Renaissance, of Sorts:
In late 2016, after a period of creative flip-flopping and navel-gazing, I decided to expand marvelous darling’s focus to include all manner of hedonistic pursuits: Sex toys, skincare, makeup, and guilty-pleasure media. Why? Well…
I have depression. And anxiety. And panic disorder. And a thyroid disorder.
With so much to bring me down, I find myself in need of lots of TLC2. Besides therapy and carefully monitored medication, I’ve found that a healthy dose of hedonism classed as self care makes all the difference in my ability to face the day.
It can be armor, or escape. It can be the first step to me leaving the house and getting shit done. I know that I can’t be the only one, and that’s why I share all of this.
There’s so much power in saying, simply, “Me too.”
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